“You are enough.”
I see this everywhere and as a mom, it really just irks me. I know that’s the opposite of the intended effect. It’s supposed to encourage me, but—and maybe this is just me—it makes me feel so condescended to and very very frustrated.
I live with me, oh valiant mom influencers with your messy buns and perfect homes. I see all the times I snap at my kids. I see all the times I give up and say, “Well, I kept them alive so that’s a win. Who cares if I get to the laundry?” I see all the ways I’ve failed to teach them in teachable moments and given up teaching in difficult moments.
I know I’m decidedly not enough. I don’t have enough hands, enough brain power, enough motivation, enough time, enough energy, enough kindness, enough patience, enough… anything.
When I look inside myself, I see an endless tunnel of insufficiencies. When I hear the placating “You’re enough!” mantra, it makes me feel like nobody is seeing the big or real picture. How can you say I’m enough? Have you seen my kitchen? Better yet, have you seen my heart?
Fortunately, there is somebody who sees my heart. He sees all of it, from the most desperate worship to the deepest, most revolting sins. And He, not I, is enough.
“And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. Therefore I am well content with weaknesses, with insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong.” 2 Corinthians 12:9-10
As a mom, as a wife, as a woman, I am not enough. And that’s not just okay, that’s as it should be. Christ is enough and His power dwells in me. He compels me to be more kind, be more loving, more hands-on in my parenting, more godly, more motherly, more… well, more. Without His grace, I am not nearly enough. But He is enough for me, giving me the strength to glorify Him through all phases of life.
So fellow mom, struggling to feel worthy during all the gritty aspects of parenting— no, you’re not enough. But you don’t have to be. God is enough. He will lead you and give you the strength to lead your kids. Why settle for “you’ve got this, mama!” when you can realise that God’s got YOU, mama?